IPhone Hacked Blackmail

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I love the fact that I know how to infiltrate that which everyone thinks is safe.

First it was social media and now it is phones. Everyone knows that I got my start online in chat rooms as most bored teenagers go. It was there that I met a few people that taught me the fun skill of hacking into other people’s email accounts. Seedy? Wrong? Yeah totally but it was fun and so simple in those days.

It did gradually become boring though and a bit more difficult. Then, Myspace hit the scene. I loved myspace because it was really easy to spy on people. I used it in college to keep tabs on guys I wanted to go out with and chicks I wanted to see get crushed. It was also easy to make fake profiles and get people to add me and pretend to be others. Oh the information people would tell you just based off a profile picture and related friends!?!?! I guess it is a great thing I do not believe in monogamy because if I had a significant other, I would be the super soothe that they couldn’t hide a thing from.

It was shortly after that that I came to Niteflirt. Now… I have never been interested in hacking anyone’s sensitive accounts. Getting into some social media and email is about all I have ever done. For me, the ability to find other kinksters has always meant way more than ever risking my niteflirt account. It was funny how much information guys would just hand over though once they were in a compromised state of arousal.

They would gladly tell me their names, cities, what they did for a living and what type of car they drove and of course their age. Your name be John Smith but there aren’t that many John Smith’s in El Paso, Texas who are accountants that drive Silver Prius and are 43 years old with a birth date in May.. just saying.

That is where I became fascinated with blackmail and power control. Where other Dommes pride themselves on how much information they can milk out of a submissive, I would take it as a challenge to have as little come from seduction as possible. Instead, I would just listen and have the pet become increasingly comfortable with me. Letting the little tidbits fall and with the least amount of information, be able to dig them up.

The shock and surprise in their voice as they realize… yeah she knows who I am.

So where does the Iphone fit in all this? Recently, one of my non Niteflirt pets wanted me to find out a bit about him. I figured out how he was finding my website, and he was using an Iphone. After some creative googling via some backwoodsy type forums full of black hat information gathering, I figured out his phone number. From there I hunted down his cloud device and POOF had all his contacts and pictures, emails and texts. He about had a heart attack as I unleashed all I had. He tried to feverishly delete stuff but only to realize I had it all already.

Guess who is now contracted by Goddess?

How to Escape a Mistress

escape-a-blackmail-mistressThis question is always asked, how can you escape a Mistress?

I see it in google searches that lead to My site, I get it in emails and blog comments..

The answer?

There really is only one answer and truthfully it is never. One of My favorite childhood movies is The Last Unicorn and the scene that reminds Me of this is when Mama Fortuna says that her immortality lay in the fact that she captured the Harpy and held her captive. The memory of being captured will live in the immortal beast forever therefore Mama Fortuna would live forever.

The parallels to the relationships we form with anyone is so true other than the fact that none of us are immortal; unless we make history of course but let’s not make this conversation that messy today eh?

While a BDSM or Power relationship may result in two parting ways, it is never really completely over. Thoughts will arise even if only once in a long while and those memories make the relationship live on. This is how I hold my confidence that all My subs will eventually circle back. They always do, as those memories pop up and nag them.

For those I ruin? Clearly thoughts of Myself pop up often ;).  As they are packing to move or trying to find gainful employment while flying under the radar of the reputation I built for them, this is no easy feat!

There is never true escape once a relationship has formed no matter if it ends sourly or if it ends on good terms. A good slave is also thought of. I have many subs that have ventured on as we diverged to different paths in life. I think of them fondly and even each out to a few special ones that captured a piece of My wicked and cruel little heart. I often will get update emails a few times a year from them, letting Me know how they are doing and clearly that I am thought of.

No Domme worth her weight in salt can honestly say there has never been a sub that she didn’t grow a fondness too. I have never had a romantic relationship with any of My subs but MANY have brought a smile to My face and few bring one with just mere thoughts of them.

Ok I retract the above statement… rather, no experienced Domme should be how it reads. Newer Domina’s who haven’t found those diamonds in the rough have a bit of an excuse. There was a point in which I viewed all as disgusting losers but I lived and learned. Now I pride Myself on how many diamonds I can find rather than just having a vast following of anyone who can reach My blog and enjoy a bit of BDSM/mindfuckery/blackmail.

So gain, short answer is, there is no true escape BUT if you want to just leave a Domme as it isn’t working out? Just drop a small goodbye and go. Now if she has your real information, you will have to decide if the benefit out weights the consequence. Perhaps offer her a buy out but know that her memory will never go away and if you enjoyed it? It will nag you forever like a bitter wife.

Cuckolded into Blackmail

Cuckold-BlackmailThere are many ways to get a pet under a blackmail contract that you probably never thought about. Cuckolding? Yes I think everyone can see that coming in one way or another but how I use blackmail might surprise you when it comes to cuckolding.

The cliche is to tease a guy and make him want you though he is married which causes a home-wrecking situation. I however like a more seedy approach. I prefer to get a pet so weak they practically are shaking from not being able to cum; having them listen in as as I fuck My many boyfriends (remember I do not do monogamy) and forcing My cuckold pet to beg for release. It won’t happen though for a monetary process. No, its in those weak moments that I pull out information that makes the pet come under My Reign. After all, once I have enough information, why bother resisting?

Think that you can hold up against Me? I know how to make the agony of wanting to cum but the pleasure of holding out for permission seem so amazing that you will not be able to resist Me. It is through those techniques that I can make anything sound so sexy that you will just HAVE to give into whatever I ask.

Some would say it is a lucid form of hypnosis and I guess in a way it can be. I would say it is more mind fucking or mental manipulation. You would be surprised how many will sit and edge wanting to see more/hear more knowing that I am withdrawing information from them.  Don’t worry because I will eventually be withdrawing from their wallets. I use cuckolding as a gateway drug.

It is true that any fetish can turn financial domination but cuckolding, at least in My experience, is the fastest and straightest ride to the dark seedy world of money extortion.

Wife Humiliation Mixed with Blackmail

blackmail-dominatrixThe idea of making wives cry tears of frustration and desperation brings severe joy to Me.  Everyone thinks they are truly the innocent ones in this relationship but I do not believe that in the SLIGHTEST.

Most of them know about their husbands kinky fetishes but take no part in it. Now I have never been one for monogamy, I do not believe that humans as a species are built for it. BUT if you believe in a life long partnership, then I believe that turning a blind eye and then getting ‘humiliated’ after is just ridiculous. Stupid people or rather people who behave stupidly deserve all the damnation that is headed their way.

This is where I step in. This wives, who so foolishly leave their husbands unmonitored and not participating in what would satisfy them (in some cases try pathetically but that’s another story); are only offering up their husbands and by proxy themselves to Me.

I look at Myself as a fetish regulator rather than a dominatrix in many ways. Yes, I love power exchange and yes I love blackmail but it goes deeper than that. I do not seek out men, though some could say by building My websites I am… but I am not targeting them directly. They are the ones googling and finding Me. You reading this, WANT blackmail or at least love reading about it. And those who are married… clearly are not having their needs met at home.

Now most guys are too nice to tell their wife that this is just unacceptable… and that is where I step in! I come in to make sure that everyone knows their true role. This is how wives fall for Me, this is how wives get humiliated for My glory and this is why I am regarded as THE most hardcore Domme on the internet. I love watching that moment of realization that this is not going away. This is not a phase and yes, that fairy tale never existed. Watching wives fall before Me is such a great way to exude My power and most are too stupid to just leave and walk away.

This only serves to show Me that they never had a backbone to begin with. Anyone one who stays so willingly clearly deserves it.

“OH BUT GODDESS!! You have their information! You are making them stay!” Bullshit. NO nice way to put that other than Bullshit. They could easily walk away albeit they will have to deal with snickers behind their backs from family and friends. In walking away though, her snickers would be short lived compared to her husband but no.. that song “Stand By Your Man” rings in their ears and these blackmailed wives stay at My feet.

I have said it before and it is still true… I am the bailiff of the jail that both the husbands and home-wrecked wives create together. Slaves that have the keys but fear leaving. It is the ultimate power to have!

Findom, Can I tribute you $5?


I answer so many of your questions from a Domme perspective.. I want to know something from your submissive perspective…WHY do you ask if you can tribute me $5, $10 or $15? Seriously? I get this frequently, though My phone rate on Niteflirt is 2.99 a minute. That means your 5 dollars means you only worship a minute or so of My time..?..!..?

I will never say no but I will never give anyone much attention if any at all for that paltry amount and yet it is always asked. Often times, if I do not respond, I never see that tribute even come into My account. Don’t worry, I am not freaking out… I am no $5 financial domme. There are many Dommes who will try and pull 10 after 10 or 5 after 5 but that to Me is just not enough. I work pets over for 100s or 1000s. The tiny dollars just do not interest Me. If your tribute can not cover dinner and drinks, then trust I am not going to get remotely enthusiastic about you.

So what about the pets who do tribute the 5? I rarely even notice to tell the truth unless I am looking through My transactions for some reason. I usually will giggle a tad and roll on. I assume you honestly are just emptying your account and give no attention to it. I have had pets tribute odd amounts like .83 cents just to clear out their accounts. Those are oddly kind of flattering! I mean… you could have left it and used it later BUT you chose to clear out your account and send Me the rest randomly. This is usually done with no ask for attention. In fact I can not think of any time a submissive came to Me wanting attention for such.

But Goddess!?! You have $5 tribute buttons up! I do indeed. I realize there are pets who drive by and do not have much. I put them up and they are like never used unless a pet wants to send an odd amount that there is no button for. Example: A custom mp3 costs 85 dollars due to length. A pet can go hit the 50, a 25 and then two 5s. Yes some pets do not know about the custom amount option and just like to click and click. Meh works for Me. I set the buttons up once and then good to go.

In short though, no… I do not do the 5 dollar pulls and if you tribute a low amount, expect little to no attention. Remember that fin domme/submissive relationships are not unlike someone going into a boutique. Someone with a larger bill will be paid more attention to than someone buying just a pack of gum. Take your gum and run along while I spend time on those who want to drop some serious bucks.. or get your feelings very hurt.

Legalities of Blackmail


Think that the laws governing blackmail are cut and dry? If they were, I wouldn’t be able to write this blog post or at least I would be doing so from the inside of a prison cell.

The truth is though, that it is harder to prove actual ‘extortion’ transpired. Sure, if you get a wire on you or whoever is trying to shake you down actually words it right, it can be a slam dunk for you. If though, you have a Domme like me who knows the law… it is not that simple.

First off, with many pets, there is no threatening that will ever happen with me. When I get sick of them, I just simply out them. If you are being outed by Goddess Amberly aka ME, then its because you didn’t live up to your contract or you just were a jerk. That is not extortion.

Also… I only use contracts. I am so well known and get so many coming to me, those that want to be hunted down just do not appeal to me. Acting like an ass and daring me… does not attract me AT ALL. Giving me information without a tribute? Same thing. I just ignore and go with those who follow my process. Because I use contracts, I am completely protected. I have had this tested legally. The contract shows it is ‘fantasy’ so when the judge sees it… it is thrown out especially since I know never to put in writing or verbally issue a threat. Yep… A Domme like me just has to know her law to screw you over ;).

The Financials of Financial Domination

Blackmail-phone-sexWhen people get into financial domination, it would seem to me that few actually THINK it through and what all is at stake.

Specifically, I am talking about submissive males but I have seen and heard some Fin Dommes who did not fully think through what ‘costs’ they could/will incur.

Time is our most precious commodity. This is why you see SOOO many true Fin Dommes who do not give the time of day to those who do not tribute before or shortly after contact. Many subs think that 10 minutes or my personal favorite over used line ” JUST ONE QUESTION!!!!??!!!” is not too much to ask. In that time though, I get about 5-10 others pming me who have already tributed and thus get my attention. Even when I was newer to the internet and didn’t have a huge following; that 10 minutes could have been spent making a blog post, recording an mp3, posting my site to another BDSM related site… the list goes on. No your one question does not mean that much to a Financially Dominant Woman…  While on the topic, I know many Dommes who will just answer one question or even 5… this does not mean I find their time less valuable or think they think their time isn’t as valuable. Perhaps, they derive pleasure out of those moments of converting a potential pet. I personally do not, hence not worth my time.

There is also an interesting dynamic between the two houses of ‘banging that wallet dry now’ and the slow bleed over time. Now, most Dommes balance a line between these two and it very much depends on the relationship the Domme has with the submissive. NOT to say the submissive dictates this at all. This, again, is just another financial consideration when entering a money slavery situation. Usually, I bang out the bucks as fast as I can and move along. Get in, get done and then you get gone (thank you John Mayer!). My reasoning? The average slave I find can not hold my attention for long. My attention span online is extremely LOW and that is because of all the inundation from emails and messages I receive. HOWEVER! I have MANY pets that can hold my attention and not just the size of their bank accounts. Do they still pay? Yes, but it is not about milking them into a homeless shelter. I actually enjoy their company. The mutual benefit means their monetary cost is lower than say… some slub that I find annoying.

Not going to lie… it is so much fun draining a slub till they screen shot their insufficient fund fees.

Teamviewer and Blackmail: What Mash Up!

getting-your-information-without-your-consent-blackmailBefore I get far into this post… It should be known that Niteflirt does NOT ALLOW FOR TEAMVIEWER. If you ask Me to take a tribute via NF for a Teamviewer session… well I NEVER took them via NF and if you call Me to discuss it I will only repeat the above.

That said… ONLY For those who contact Me via this site, and never do I direct someone who contacts Me via NF to contact Me here, will I consent to a Teamviewer session with. This includes ALL forms of remote access programs. I follow Niteflirt guidelines at all times. NONE of you are worth risking My account.

I am very selective in whom I will take on and My personalized sessions run 300+. If that is a problem, do not apply. I also do not give much information about the session till after payment is made via online gift card.

The reason I love Teamviewer when it comes with blackmail and domination… the amount of information people do not realize can be obtained. Even with computers that people think are ‘clean’, I can grab a ton. Most people use some sort of Google product these days. It saves passwords and histories to the devices your on. When someone takes remote access, they get a hold of this payload without you even realizing it.

So many pet are simply astonished by the amount of information I have been able to pilfer behind the scenes. It is so easy to run a program on My computer/devices that will affect yours… but again that is apart of our contract when I have such sessions.

I have downloaded entire phone contacts, download histories, password registries and so much more.

By the way, having Me inside your facebook page only to change the password? Don’t worry… I screen shot friend’s lists. I can always ‘connect’ after that haha.


Money Control vs Blackmail

When you think of money control, do you think of only blackmail?

I know I am the blackmail Queen in the online fetish world… but did you know it’s not all I actually enjoy?

Money control, in a BDSM power control aspect, often can go hand in hand with blackmail but they are not exclusively joined together. Money, as I have stated before, is the ultimate form of power. Where you spend your money tells A LOT about you and to spend your money on a Domme shows just how much you value her.

To take that control further, I have had many non blackmail pets whom I have had total control over their finances. Now this does not come quick or cheap… it took a long time to build the trust that came of these relationships but they did in fact happen.

Everette comes to mind when I think of how much control one can have without blackmail. Blackmail means one needs to have their hands twisted a bit to comply but with just power/money control…, I was given access to all of his bank accounts. I eventually had all his mail sent to my house and paid his bills as I saw fit. I was given legal access to make transfers from his  bank and IRA accounts. His savings didn’t exist shortly after we met. I will let you guess as to why. Our contract was set for a period of a few months but he renewed every time it was getting close. We played and had much fun for 5 whole years. That was when I became very busy with my psychology practice and his life also took a turn down a different path. We parted ways but still talk occasionally. He very much loved the arrangement. We met every few months as well and had little play sessions that always ended with a trip to shower me with a few presents. He purchased my first BMW for me. Not an extremely pretentious car but one I had been eyeing for a while.

So how was it not blackmail? Simple… it just wasn’t. NO threats were ever needed. It wasn’t how our relationship was. I have said it time and time again, I do not blackmail outside of a blackmail contract. We were strictly financial and he loved having to come to me over his wife in order to get bills paid. He loved knowing if he jerked me around, I just simply would call and have the cable turned off at his house and then he would be stuck explaining why to his family as I laughed. One could say it was blackmail but he knew I would never out him.

Money is a great control system and gauge on how a pet actually looks at his Mistress. It isn’t often about the amount either.

A pet who tributes first before contact? Shows he values your time. One who tries to get as much time for every nickle or hell doesn’t pay first? That is just a fetish head, nothing wrong with that but not for me. I again.. relish in true power.

Your Wife Doesn’t Matter To this Homewrecker

your-wife-doesnt-matterI get soo many many messages daily about the impact I have on my submissive’s wives. I honestly do not care and no it is not a question or matter of innocence. They are not being hurt by anything I have personally done. What I do with my subs during fetish play is not cheating on a romantic relationship as BDSM is not exclusively romantic. Sex itself is not exclusively romantic. Therefore when I out pets to their wives I am just making them aware of a situation that has been going on.

Now whether they care or not is none of my concern and the impact it has on the marriage is of little consequence or matter to me. Many wives already knew their husbands dabbled in BDSM and dont care. They are annoyed they got a call about it though haha! For those that are devastated well… is them NOT nowing serving them any favors? Clearly they do not have a good enough relationship with their spouse that they know about the kinky side of their spouse or that their spouse is giving into that urge. The kink is then a cancer to the relationship and whether or not the wife knows bares no burden on me. I am simply then just the doctor telling the patient about the cancer. IT could be argued that I hurried the cancer along in my ill regard to stop the submissive from indulging but if it is one thing I have learned about humanity… if someone wants to do something, me saying no means they will just seek it elsewhere. That and I love power play myself so why not indulge?

A heartless view on the fetish? Perhaps, but what did you expect out of a true blackmail mistress? This is not just a fetish but a fun lifestyle that I get much gratification out of!